What do I look for in my next girlfriend


Written on April 29, 2007 – 7:07 am | by laviap
Not so long ago, a friend of mine posted on her blog, what she wants in her man. Then, someone asked me, a few days ago, what criteria do I look for in my next girlfriend. So, here it goes.
1. Must be at least between 5’0” and 5’5” tall. I’m 5’6” tall lah. Any higher that that, people might think I’m going out with my sister.
2. Minimum 5 years younger than me.
3. Able to play the guitar.
4. Likes or able to listen to rock music.
5. Likes to read books. I would prefer if she read mystery, thriller, horror or fantasy. Romance? I’ll think about it.
6. A movie buff.
7. Able to spark new interest or hobby in me.
8. Internet savvy.
9. Up to date with current issue
10. Likes anime.
11. Likes the outdoor.
12. Loves to travel.
Hmm… is it too much to ask for? By the way, I find that I can get along very well with those who are born in the year of the Monkey, Rooster and Rat. Having a good look and nice body is not a must, but an added bonus. Yup, boys will always be boys.

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Revival of an old friend


Written on April 20, 2007 – 4:56 pm | by laviap
She has been a good friend to me coming to 10 years now. Through good and bad times, through happiness and sorrow, she never failed to be there. Though I’ve neglected her most of the time, leaving her alone, while I spend most of my time with my late fiancée. I did hold her recently, just before my fiancée pass away, trying to remember time we spent together.  Pulling the right string, stroking her at times, and she will reward you with a beautiful seranade. My dear old guitar. What? She does have a nice body what?

She was not my first guitar; my first one was a Kapok brand guitar. I bought it because I wanted to learn how to play. Back then, in 1994, I’m not really into rock. It was a different kind of music. My course mate, next to my room own one guitar, also Kapok guitar, always play a nice song, sometimes a rift from a popular song. My Sabahan course mate, opposite too my room would always borrowed the guitar and strum a few song, while we sang together. Until one semester break, the guitar was left for us to play. We Sabahan can’t afford to go home for just a week break, so we stayed. That’s was when I took the opportunity to learn to play.

Soon afterward, I bought my own Kapok, and also code book, so that I know how to do ‘C’, ‘G’ and ‘F’, and I learned my first song, Dream, Dream, Dream. I even bought a song book containing all the latest and old song. When I got back for a long semester break, the boys in my neighbourhood also have started playing guitar. They asked me if I can play Smell Like Teen Spirit? They gave me Nirvana album and asked me to try to play to the tune, so they could bring me to jamming studio. The day I went to the studio was the first time I hold an electric guitar. Playing Smell Like a Teen Spirit over and over for half an hour was exhilarating. I GOT HOOKED. And that was the day that I have converted to ROCK!!!

I have been playing guitar since that day, so hooked I was at that time, if it doesn’t involve guitar, I am not interested. My brother’s also started playing the guitar that we formed our own band, playing mostly punk and britpop music. We called our self EDM, then changed it to Blind Element. I even started my own website dedicated to alternative rock movement in Malaysia.

N70rif299_1Getting back to my dear old guitar, I bought her in 1996 while I was still in JB. Nothing fancy, a Santana brand. The shop owner even offers me to lower down the fret. I agreed to it, and after few hours browsing the shopping complex, she’s is finally mine. Last month bought new sets of electric guitar string, replaced the rusty string, and now, she’s making music again. Downloaded back all the guitar riff that I have forgotten. Although I’ve forgotten a few riff, it’s almost like riding a bicycle, after playing a few riff, I start to remember. There is something about the sound of acoustic guitar, it have this calming effect on me. And no, I don’t name my guitar.

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Life goes on…


Written on April 20, 2007 – 5:31 am | by laviap
Image405 It has been 40 days since Erlinna passed away. And I know I must move on. Thank you for everyone who supported me.
Bukan Diriku
Samson
Setelah kupahami
ku bukan yang terbaik
yang ada di hatimu
Tak dapat kusanksikan
ternyata dirinyalah
yang mengerti kamu,
bukanlah diriku
Kini maafkanlah aku
bila ku menjadi bisu
kepada dirimu
bukan santunku terbungkam
hanya hatiku terbatas
‘tuk mengerti kamu
maafkanlah aku
Chorus:
Walau ku masih mencintaimu;
Ku harus meninggalkanmu;
Ku harus melupakanmu
Meski hatiku menyayangimu;
Nurani membutuhkanmu;
ku harus merelakanmu
Dan hanyalah dirimu
yang mampu memahamiku
yang dapat mengerti aku,
ternyata dirinyalah
yang sanggup menyanjungmu
yang dapat menyantunmu,
bukanlah diriku

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Happy Anniversary dear…


Written on April 12, 2007 – 4:14 pm | by laviap
Today would be our 4th anniversary. Miss her so much…
Someday We’ll Know
New Radicals
90 miles outside Chicago
Can’t stop driving
I don’t know why
So many questions
I need an answer
Two years later
You’re still on my mind
Whatever happened to Amelia Earhart
Who holds the stars up in the sky
Is true love once in a lifetime
Did the captain of the Titanic cry
Chorus:
Someday we’ll know
If love can move a mountain
Someday we’ll know
Why the sky is blue
Someday we’ll know
Why I wasn’t meant for you
Does anybody know the way to Atlantis
Or what the wind says when she cries
I’m speeding by the place where I met you
For the 97th time tonight
(chorus)
Someday we’ll know
Why Samson loved Delilah
One day I’ll go
Dancing on the moon
Someday you’ll know
That I was the one for you
I bought a ticket to the end of the rainbow
I watched the stars crash in the sea
If I could ask God just one question
Why aren’t you here with me? Tonight
(chorus)
Someday we’ll know
Why sampson loved Delilah
One day I’ll go
Dancing on the moon
Someday you’ll know
That I was the One for you

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Rest in peace


Written on March 12, 2007 – 5:46 am | by laviap

Erlinna Noorazmi. Born on 27th November 1984, died on 11th March 2007. She died from cancer. May she rest in peace. There is nothing more to say except that I am glad, I am thankfull to god, that I was given the chance to meet such a wonderfull person. Even if I moved on, she will still have a place in my heart.

Went to Lahad Datu again, this time with my parents and sisters, bringing along ‘ubat penawar’ for her. But our effort is futile. God love her more and took her, to end her suffering. We arrive at Lahad Datu at about 11pm and went straight to the hotel. I was very tired from driving and told my mother to see Erlinna the next morning. At 3 o’clock in the morning I got a call from her parents. At first it was her father, but it seems that he couldn’t talk. My heart beating fast, I knew there’s something wrong. Then it was her mother. She told me Erlinna has moved on. I was speechless. My dad asks me if I wanted to go to the hospital. I said yes and took my car keys. Dad followed me. Reached the hospital, saw her lifeless body. I cried. I cried even more when her friend called me after they got my SMS.

Her father told me that her passing was easy. She took one long and deep breath, then blowing her final breath.

Before she when to critical, she told me that she wanted to see me, which I manage to do for one last time last week. She also asked me to accompany her with her dad to burry her, which I also did. She also asked me to take back the engagement ring, which I also did, and keep it in a special box. I have gotten used to wearing our engagement ring, now I have to remove it. I accept god’s will.

I will move on, she would like me to do so. When she was first diagnosed with cancer, she asked me to leave her and get me a new girlfriend. I refused. I said to her, “Only if you passed away”. She kept asking me that and I always answered the same thing. I consider that a promise to her, I will keep that promise.

Thank you for all who send their condolence, don’t have to worry about me. I will move on. However, I will still maintain her friendster profile, as long as I could. I would also post my final entry on our fotopages.

REST IN PEACE DEAR.

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Battle for her life


Written on March 4, 2007 – 5:03 pm | by laviap

N70rif282 I arrived from Lahad Datu yesterday with a sad heart. It seems like my fiancée is loosing her battle to cancer. She was admitted at  Lahad Datu Hospital Friday night and the doctor is giving her 1 week the most to live. Her mother called me up Saturday morning telling me her condition.

Diagnose with salivary gland cancer back in June 2006, she undergo surgery to remove part of her face, went for chemo & radio therapy and finished in November 2006. It seems that everything is going to be okay and she is going to survive the battle. January 2007 not long after her therapy, she was diagnosed with brain cancer. The doctor said that her cancer cells are very aggressive and have spread to other part of her body. The doctors are trying to get her into another chemo with a heavier dose. Because she’s a government staff and it will take some time to get the guarantee letter from her department, we tried other means of treatment. That means trying out every ‘Pawang’, ‘Bomoh’ and ‘Guru’ to cure her. Majority of them says that she was cured. One of them removed bits of glass and a piece of metal above her head, in front of my eyes. I don’t know if its true or not but the ‘Guru’ claim that he manage to remove the curse and part of her brain cancer but couldn’t remove cancer cells which have infected her eyes, fearing that removing it would make her blind or crippling her. They can only give her medicine to try making the cancer cell smaller.

Wednesday, 28th February 2007 was the last time I manage to message her. The next Thursday she’s not able to reply my message, her mother convey me her message. Friday…

I went to Lahad Datu Saturday at 3pm by land together with my brother and his girlfriend, reached there about 9pm. We were driving fast fearing that I could not see her. We went straight to the hospital. A few family members have already arrived, with red watery eyes. You have to look at the photo to know why. Her parents are not giving up and so does I. They are using every inch of time and opportunity to get anyone or anything to the hospital and try to save her.

Did I cry? Yes I did, on my bed in the hotel, while taking my shower, but not in front of her family. When you have found an almost perfect women, been together almost 4 years now, and have been engage, it’s hard not to cry. I pray that she will again survive this battle.

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KK City Tourism Treasure Hunt 2007


Written on February 25, 2007 – 7:21 am | by laviap

Dscn7266 The hunt is on again. This is the 7th time DBKK held its annual treasure hunt. About 98 cars participate in the hunt and it is the second time my team joined. Yes, my team, Lelipan. Unlike last year where there are only a few physical challenges, this year it is totally different. It’s a bit like a mini Explore Race type challenge where we have to go sight seeing to get the answer, mostly historical. Thank god we got 3G. Do you know where KK Gallery is? It’s recently launch, and it is on the 7th floor, Centre Point. That’s just the first challenge of Leg 1.

Then Leg 2, challenge2, we have to find answer from clues provided by the organizer. We get a few, we lost a few. And it’s totally up to us which sector we want to do first. It’s a safer bet if we just follow the sequence. The sectors are Api-Api Centre, Sinsuran and Damai Plaza. Darn clue, we were so absorb in finding the answer that we totally forgotten about the time limit.

Then comes challenge 3 where we have to walk on stilts. I failed miserably. Hey, it has been like 20 years since I last play the bloody thing. We also have to identify which tribe from their traditional costume. I think we manage to get 3 out of 5.

After that it’s Leg 4. Now this is where we follow a set of tulips to get to the treasure area. What is tulip you ask? It’s a substitute to maps. Unlike map where you got a clearer picture where you are going, tulips just show you where to go and which area have the answer to sets of clue. Easier than Leg 2 because all answer are in sequence. We have physical challenge in Leg 4. You are required to get 5kg rice bag that they want on a given time. We missed 1 bag. We skipped a few answer because we don’t have much time left to find it.

We didn’t get a placing this year. We overshoot out time limit. We were given 7 hours instead we arrive after 8 hours so they have to deduct our marks. But overall, although we’re tired, we didn’t win anything, it is still fun. There’s another treasure hunt in April. You can bet we’ll be joining it.

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How I joined Silat


Written on February 20, 2007 – 12:36 am | by laviap

Why did I joint Silat? There is a lot of martial art in Sabah, but I settle with Silat. I joined Persatuan Seni Silat Cekak Ustaz Hanafi Malaysia Cawangan Sabah since August 2004, and now I’ve become one of the Instructors teaching at SM Majakir, Papar.

As far as I remember, the first martial art that I joined was Tae Kwon Do. But I didn’t finish it, not even upgrading to yellow belt. I was too lazy to continue. I was 14 at that time and I was very active in extra curricular activity. What prompt me to join at that time? Well, sadly, I was mugged by some bully from other school. I was not hurt though, I willingly surrender my only RM10. I was only 5′3" at that time and he was like 5′6" or 5′7". Yes, yes, I was small that time. Don’t laugh at me. It happens inside State Mosque while waiting for Friday prayer. Can you believe it? Luckily my mom’s office is just a walk away and I just simply popped up as said, "Hi mom. I was mugged just now. Can I have another RM10?”.

Then I joined Kung Fu. Wuuuu… Yeah I know. I was in Universiti Teknologi Malaysia. I guess I joined it because I watch too many Jackie Chan & Jet Li’s Movie. Guess what? I didn’t finish it either. For 1 semester it’s just stretching and stretching and stretching. It’s boring. But I did manage to learn The Monkey Stance Kung Fu. I can’t recall the moves now. And the funny thing is, Silat Cekak was in my university but I was not moved to join.

Then I met my fiancée. She’s a Karate Do Black Belt 2nd Dan holder. Then I get to thinking. It is kind off embarrassing if groups of mugger surround you and your fiancée end up saving you. I am a man. I must be able to throw a punch at least. So I decide to join Shorinji Kempo while at the same time my brothers joined Silat Cekak. They keep promoting it to me but I still insist on joining Shorinji until a friend of mine message me to join silat. I didn’t think for a second and just simply say okay. So I didn’t manage to join Shorinji but joined Silat Cekak instead. My brother was still half way at that time. They kind off waiting for me I guess. So we finished together, went for Sijil Rendah Persilatan together (hey, I got two SRP certificate now hahaha), and went to Pertandingan Waja Diri 2005 together. My sisters and cousins also joined soon after we completed our training. So you can say we are Cekak Hanafi Family now.

But still, why Silat? Well, that’s another story.

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My first blog


Written on February 14, 2007 – 3:28 pm | by laviap
Att00041 Before you read, I just want to say, this is my first attempt in writing a blog. Everyone seems to be doing it. I for one like to read blog, not all though. Only those which I think worth reading. And I’m not good with words either. Hence why I just read. What makes me want to start blogging you might ask?
It hit me when I was driving to Kudat. I normally went outstation alone and during those time spent reaching my destination, my head will start wonder off, thinking about this and that, remembering my old times, day dreaming. Day dreaming? While driving? Trust me, when you spent almost 3 years driving here and there, it’s possible. A good remedy if you’re sleepy while driving. That’s when it hits me. What if I write down what I thought and feel into a blog.
What if I make a fool of myself? Being a computer geek, I came across "10 ways to become a better blogger". It did give me some insight on how and what to blog. You can make an income out of it too!!! Not for me. Well not for me yet. After managing my borneokraf.com, I think I know how to do it.
The first thing before you blog is to define a purpose. Yeap, got that one covered. Then you need to have a proper tool. Let me see now, I got my laptop, my hand and my head. Kewl. What else? Stay at one place. Good, stick to friendster haha. Engage you reader. Friendster already covered that. Establish a blogging schedule. Promise will work on it. I’m a busy man. Engineer day time, web designer night time, teaching student to defend themselves in the weekend. Not to mention spending quality time with my fiancée. Oh well, I’ll work it out, eventually. Keep it concise. Will work on that also hehe. Proofread before publishing. I let my fiancée read it first. She’s an English teacher. Kewl.
Before I finish off my blog, I have 4 people to thank. You guys inspired me to start a blog. Well thank you Phyllis, Titanium, Aporn and Alvira. Keep on blogging guys!

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